Comments on: 10 Assumptions We Should Stop Making About Boys

By: Kara

Kara — Wed, 27 Apr 2016 22:35:25 +0000

In reply to Michelle. Very true! Every child is different.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Mon, 25 Apr 2016 05:51:46 +0000

I have two grown boys/men now and yes, it’s a long story but I was sad when they weren’t girls at least one of them. But as the years went by and I saw the challenges from friends having girls I felt blessed. They are my pride and joy and I do hope for granddaughters but I can’t imagine it different. The misconception I’ve observed is that boys are more well behaved than girls. The father that had this mistaken idea became father of two boys first. He experienced mostly compliance with the rules. Enter two girls next they were all about doing their own thing and wasn’t interested in rules. I told him about my two boys. They are polar opposites. The first one was easy and laid back and followed the program the second was all about pushing and questioning. Yet they were boys. They were proof that appropriate behavior is not gender specific it’s parenting specific.

By: Kara

Kara — Thu, 10 Mar 2016 23:19:15 +0000

In reply to Kim Huckerby. You are so welcome! I agree with you. I can't imagine how my life would be without them. Definitely not as fun.

By: Kim Huckerby

Kim Huckerby — Mon, 07 Mar 2016 20:26:28 +0000

Absolutely love this article!! definitely one to share around. As a mum of two boys, I know that they came into my life for a reason and they teach me something magical everyday… Couldn’t imagine my life without them. Thanks for sharing!!! xx

By: Ashaki

Ashaki — Wed, 03 Feb 2016 13:13:49 +0000

Great read, I am mother of two boys and share many of your same ideals for raising male children. Thank you for making valid points about lumping all boys into one category even when it’s not a healthy thing to do. They are all individuals who deserve to be loved and respected for who they are. I will definitely share with other Moms that I know.

By: Kara

Kara — Thu, 27 Aug 2015 20:36:52 +0000

In reply to Pepper Colwell. That would definitely be an eye opener. I have one son who is a lot more emotional than any of my others. I have to constantly remind myself that it is okay for him to express emotions in his way, especially when weare home and he is in a safe environment. Thank you for your comment!

By: Kara

Kara — Wed, 15 Jul 2015 21:26:48 +0000

In reply to Lisa. Yes definitely. :)

By: Lisa

Lisa — Wed, 15 Jul 2015 21:24:01 +0000

Boys are so sweet. It may be a stinky sweet, but sweet just the same 🙂

By: Pepper Colwell

Pepper Colwell — Tue, 14 Jul 2015 17:58:49 +0000

This is a great article! I highly enjoyed reading this. I found this on Pinterest and will be repinning. I have one boy and he’s 7 years old. He really isn’t into sports, only soccer, and he is very sensitive. He’s a Lego building, Minecraft loving boy. I used to be strict on him when he would cry or get really emotional. And then one day he told me that just because he is a boy, doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings and that made me open my eyes. Thank you for this great article!

By: Kara

Kara — Wed, 17 Jun 2015 02:59:57 +0000

In reply to Brandy @ Our Thrifty Home. Thank you Brandy! As a mom I think it really was a bit shocking to see just how different my boys are. I don't know where the assumptions come from but I agree, I am just so blessed to have my boys with their fun and unique personalities.

By: Brandy @ Our Thrifty Home

Brandy @ Our Thrifty Home — Thu, 11 Jun 2015 21:18:35 +0000

I just wonder who in the world comes up with these assumptions anyway.

We have 2 boys and a girl and all 3 are equally different. My boys are night and day. Furthermore, my daughter and I are completely different.

It’s a shame that any personality trait has to be defended but you did a beautiful job in this post. Thank you!

We are BLESSED to have children, regardless of their gender.

Again thank you for this heartfelt and beautiful post!

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 11 Mar 2015 13:10:26 +0000

Wonderful article! The only thing I would add is I constantly hear “Oh you only have boys? How nice not to have the drama that comes along with little girls!” I wish! Boys can have just as much drama as little girls. My oldest is very sensitive and he will cry over things like a skylander figurine has his head on backwards, some other boys didn’t want to sit next to him on the bus, somebody said his hair was too long, etc. I do think girls are worse after puberty, but I definitely get my share of drama right now. 🙂

By: Nicole

Nicole — Tue, 10 Mar 2015 15:31:57 +0000

Great article. My husband and I were just talking about #9 yesterday. I feel sometimes society wants to put the achievements of girls above the same achievements of boys, like it is a bigger deal if a girl achieves a goal. I think this is counter productive to the whole idea of girl empowerment. Girls achievements aren’t better than those of their male peers. Rather, we are striving for equality regardless of gender. All children should be celebrated for what they can achieve .

By: Phyllis

Phyllis — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 13:06:38 +0000

This is a great list! I agree with it whole heartedly.

By: Kristi

Kristi — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 12:38:49 +0000

I love the idea that we should be careful how we portray boys in the media and how that affects their self esteem! As the mother of 4 boys, I have thought all of these things numerous times. I would love to add one about drama/emotionalism. I think you touched on it in #2 but I’d go even further. I am constantly told I should be thankful I have boys because I will miss so much drama and escape the teen years. I AM thankful I have boys, but I think we will have our own share of drama! My second is a passionate guy who struggles a bit with containing big emotions. Not all boys are emotionally “simple” just add not all girls are dramatic! We need to stop Pigeon holing children!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 04 Mar 2015 01:17:13 +0000

Wonderful article written by an even more wonderful mom
My 5 boys who are similar in many ways are also unique in more ways. Some like sports though I don’t feel they need to play every sport out there. We have baby dolls and to me boys who play with dolls are more likely to grow up to be nurturing fathers who will help his future wife and mother of his kids with those not so fun tasks like diaper changing. Believe it or not we own the movie frozen and I have no problem letting my younger boys watch strawberry shortcake, they also like rescue bots. I let them play mine craft and other video games expectations are games like grand theft auto or other similar games. My boys are smart and my oldest is extremely smart. He was tested and is in the gifted program. Many adults have come to us astonished at how smart he is and he has lots of friends, in fact he acts like a normal teen. He uses instagram and kik to talk to friends when not at school. So I think people need to stop stereotyping boys after all there was a whole super bowl commercial on how we shouldn’t say “you run like a girl, or throw like a girl.” We shouldn’t raise up one gender while putting down the other.