Do you ever feel like you can’t get your son to do ANYTHING unless you yell? Every mom has moments of complete exhaustion where it seems as though no one can hear her unless she turns into a screaming crazy person. Trust me, I have been there! Here are some proven ways to get your son to listen without yelling.
7 Proven Ways to Get Your Son to Listen Without Yelling
Talk to your son
This sounds crazy, but sometimes speaking in a normal tone, without yelling, gets more attention than yelling. Talk to your son, let him know what’s up and that you’re disappointed he’s not listening.
Stay calm
Have you noticed our children seem to feed off us? If you stay calm, your son is much more likely to listen to you. Stay calm as you try and get him to listen (even thought that is hard!). When you yell, it only makes them crazier. Trust me, I have four sons and know this.
Let them know what’s coming up
I like to give my boys a warning. An example would be “in five minutes, we are leaving. Start getting your shoes on now.” When you let them know what is coming up, it makes them more prepared. It also may get them moving, which means you don’t need to yell as much!
Offer a punishment for not listening
Don’t waste your time on yelling at your kids. If they aren’t going to listen, then have a consequence in place. If they don’t listen the first time and you have to ask twice, then they get to do an extra chore. While it’s not always fun seeing them suffer, there is a good chance they will listen the next time!
Offer an incentive for good listening
Some children respond better when they know there is a positive outcome for listening. I like to set aside a certain time each day for my boys to play electronics or have friends over…IF they get their chores done. If they don't get things done by that time, then they will miss out on whatever incentive I had given them.
Write out their expectations
As your kids get older, you don’t need to rely on yelling to get them to listen. I like to write out a list of things I expect my kids to do. They can read the list and do what needs to be done. You can be done with your days of yelling by writing out the expectations. If they don’t follow the rules or get done what needs to be done, then there are consequences.
Listen to what he is saying
I know it’s so hard to not yell at your kids. However, when you listen to what he is saying, he may have something important to say! Listening to your son, makes him feel like he has a voice and what he is saying is important.
What tips do you have to get your son to listen without yelling?
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